{"id":377,"date":"2023-08-21T21:55:59","date_gmt":"2023-08-21T21:55:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/olsenmediation.com\/?p=377"},"modified":"2023-09-04T18:01:15","modified_gmt":"2023-09-04T18:01:15","slug":"10-rules-for-mediation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/olsenmediation.com\/index.php\/2023\/08\/21\/10-rules-for-mediation\/","title":{"rendered":"Steve Olsen’s 10 Rules For Mediation"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

STEVE\u2019S 10 RULES OF MEDIATION<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a flow to a Mediation, it\u2019s not two persons working against one another, it is THREE persons working together as a team to find a common goal. It\u2019s Give + Take = Compromise and YOUR Happiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They say there are unwritten rules of Mediation . . . Really? I thought it might be good to write them, so here are mine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Mediation
A Good Thought To Start With . . .<\/strong><\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

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  1. WHAT THEY\u2019RE TALKING ABOUT IS NOT WHAT THEY\u2019RE TALKING ABOUT<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. IF A PARTY KEEPS REPEATING THEMSELVES, THEY DON\u2019T FEEL LIKE THEY\u2019RE BEING HEARD. FEED BACK WHAT THEY\u2019RE SAYING<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. PARTIES CAN\u2019T GO BACKWARDS & FORWARDS AT THE SAME TIME. IF A PARTY IS STUCK IN THE PAST & CAN\u2019T MOVE FORWARD, THERE IS AN UNDERLYING EMOTION THAT NEEDS TO BE ACKNOWLEDGED FIRST. REFLECT THEIR EMOTIONS<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. INTERESTS ARE THE FLIP SIDE OF EMOTIONS<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. WHEN IN DOUBT SUMMARIZE<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  6. THE PARTY WHO MAKES THE FIRST \u201cGIFT\u201d – I.E. CONCESSION, APOLOGY, ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF THE OTHER PARTY\u2019S VALUE \u201cWINS\u201d (I.E. COMES CLOSEST TO THEIR GOALS)<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  7. YOU CAN BE HAPPY, OR YOU CAN BE RIGHT – YOU CHOOSE<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  8. SOMETIMES THE RIGHT ANSWER AT THE WRONG TIME IS THE WRONG ANSWER. IF A PARTY IS NOT EMOTIONALLY ABLE TO MOVE FORWARD, TRY TAKING A BREAK. IF THAT DOESN\u2019T HELP, SUGGEST ADJOURNING & REGROUPING FOR ANOTHER SESSION, POSSIBLY WITH A SUPPORT PERSON<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  9. THE MEDIATOR SHOULD NEVER BE WORKING HARDER THAN THE PARTIES<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  10. DON\u2019T LET YOUR DESIRE TO BRING PEACE TO THE PARTIES\u2019 CONFLICT DIMINISH YOUR GOOD WORK. SOMETIMES GIVING THE PARTIES A SAFE AND<\/strong> RESPECTFUL SPACE TO TALK, WILL TAKE SOME TIME BEFORE THE PARTIES CAN MOVE FORWARD<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    I’m here to help . . . Please give me a call to discuss your issue and let’s work to resolve it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Steve Olsen – Mediator | Arbitrator<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    consult@olsenmediation.com<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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